Are sexual fantasies for the rich?
A friend of mine was recently part of a forum on changing sexual norms in India. Amongst the Indian masses to be exact. A renowned actor from the UK was in Bombay to film a documentary on the changing sexual mores of the masses.
The forum included a fashion designer, a director, some (successful) actor/ writer types, employees of Vogue, artists and the like. “The masses”, if you will. Video cameras did the rounds while these beautiful people ate their caviar, drank their champagne and discussed the sexual ways of the average Indian. Hearing about this got me thinking about sexual fantasies.
Are sexual fantasies … or, at least, living out sexual fantasies … a luxury of the wealthy? Do sex lives get more experimental and more exciting with more money and hence, more space and more resources?
Let’s start with what I imagine is the most basic fantasy…thinking of someone else while you are making love to your partner. That seems simple… and doesn’t require space, special clothing, locations or anything of the sort.
On the opposite extreme is the s&m, dominatrix genre of fantasies…the flown blown highbudget Yash Raj productions. And, in between is everything from voyeurism to threesomes to orgies and more.
Threesomes seem to be one of the first stops for people on the fantasy road. The question that inevitably comes up is: is it better to be the third person to join a couple or be part of a couple inviting a third person to join in? I would guess the former is the safer option. Living out some of these fantasies could mean disastrous results for stable relationships.
Fantasies can be conscious or sub-conscious and positive or negative. They provide a nice break from reality and allow for excitement and greater arousal. As the forum that was discussing such things proves, social responses to sexual fantasies vary greatly. A surprising BBC survey found that the most popular fantasy for men and women was having sex with their existing partner.
I am inclined to believe that these answers were given with the ‘existing partner’ sitting within earshot. Now that’s food for thought …or for tonight.
Source: New Ind Express
The forum included a fashion designer, a director, some (successful) actor/ writer types, employees of Vogue, artists and the like. “The masses”, if you will. Video cameras did the rounds while these beautiful people ate their caviar, drank their champagne and discussed the sexual ways of the average Indian. Hearing about this got me thinking about sexual fantasies.
Are sexual fantasies … or, at least, living out sexual fantasies … a luxury of the wealthy? Do sex lives get more experimental and more exciting with more money and hence, more space and more resources?
Let’s start with what I imagine is the most basic fantasy…thinking of someone else while you are making love to your partner. That seems simple… and doesn’t require space, special clothing, locations or anything of the sort.
On the opposite extreme is the s&m, dominatrix genre of fantasies…the flown blown highbudget Yash Raj productions. And, in between is everything from voyeurism to threesomes to orgies and more.
Threesomes seem to be one of the first stops for people on the fantasy road. The question that inevitably comes up is: is it better to be the third person to join a couple or be part of a couple inviting a third person to join in? I would guess the former is the safer option. Living out some of these fantasies could mean disastrous results for stable relationships.
Fantasies can be conscious or sub-conscious and positive or negative. They provide a nice break from reality and allow for excitement and greater arousal. As the forum that was discussing such things proves, social responses to sexual fantasies vary greatly. A surprising BBC survey found that the most popular fantasy for men and women was having sex with their existing partner.
I am inclined to believe that these answers were given with the ‘existing partner’ sitting within earshot. Now that’s food for thought …or for tonight.
Source: New Ind Express
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